“It was a singular sensation to be held so gently and yet so fiercely, to be stared down at with so much love”. (Kate DiCamillo, “The Miraculous Journey of Edward Tulane”).
Edward Tulane is a porcelain bunny who is on a journey to love. His story of finding himself and learning to feel loved contains beautiful lessons for us all. Learning to actually feel and receive love is our Most important lesson.
Kristin Neff talks about gentle self compassion and fierce self compassion. Both help alleviate our suffering. Gentleness accepts and allows. Fierceness protects and provides. Think soft accepting grandma versus ferocious mama bear, think warm, tender hug versus brave self defense, think saying to yourself kindly, “it’s okay” versus saying boldly “that is not okay”.
We need both the gentleness and fierceness of love. And I believe we need it most from within ourselves. Just like little bunny Edward Tulane’s journey teaches, learning to feel loved could change everything in our world.
I have spent too much time not loving myself well. I have not always understood this. Sadly, painfully, tragically even, this has had a ripple effect in my life. To truly turn this ship around, I am playing with many practices and ideas that could lead to love. Here are a few I am sharing from my heart to yours: